Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.” –Hebrews -16 (NIV) I'm Beth Steffaniak and my story is not what you might expect from a pastor's wife, counselor and life coach.I came into marriage with many emotional wounds and unhealthy patterns that left mess after mess in my wake. Click on this link: Beth's Story to read more about my messy journey.Black Girls for Dating: Black Girls is a site devoted to Black singles, Black Personals, Black Matchmaking, and men seeking Black women for dating.We have thousands of beautiful Black girls, Brazilian girls, Dominican girls, and African girls seeking friendship, romance, dating or marriage.Knowing the six levels of validation as identified by Marsha Linehan, Ph. Being present for yourself means acknowledging your internal experience and sitting with it rather than "running away" from it, avoiding it, or pushing it away. Even happiness or excitement can feel uncomfortable at times.Often one of the reasons other people are uncomfortable with intense emotion is that they don't know what to say.Self-validation is the recognition and acceptance of your own thoughts, feelings, sensations and behaviors as understandable. Multi-tasking while you listen to your teenager's story about his soccer game is not being present.
Sometimes a conflict can be averted by simply validating what your spouse has said.But it’s absolutely crucial to effective communication and to the fulfillment of our craving for connection with our mates.