Girls dating younger boys
“Leave the suburbs and come live in the city,” I said, the moon looming above us. When hooking up younger boys, I thought it was important to leave them with a nice, albeit unrealistic, thought of our future together.
I told Patrick we could go to parties, sleep in the same bed and smoke cigarettes together all the time. He was at the train station, asking for my address. We sat on my mattress, which was in the middle of the living room floor, for a serious chat. Patrick wasn’t the first younger guy who’d fallen for me.
At 17, you're still young and you can pretty much assume that most 14-year-old guys aren't thinking "serious" yet.
You both have so many more people to meet and experiences to have. Dating means researching the kinds of people you like to be around.
“That way you grab them before they are corrupted by fraternity brothers.” So in other words, girls are dating boys they like, and are trying to date boys who are nice and respectful to them — something they don’t necessarily see from older boys. It sounds like the girls and the boys here are doing everything right.
Instead of looking at this and saying, “Well it’s actually pretty normal to date people who are a year or two older or younger,” the Times reporter brands a bunch of 17-year-olds “cougars in training.” I actually am a little skeptical of relationships where there’s a large age difference, where that age difference reflects a major gap in life experience — which is why I think that, for example, a college sophomore dating a junior in high school would likely pose more issues with power imbalances/potentially predatory behavior than a 30-year-old dating a 34-year-old, even though the age gap is the same. They’re seeking out boys who are within a year or two of their own age, and they’re choosing boyfriends because those particular boys are nice and kind and respectful, and they respect those boys in turn; the boys are choosing girlfriends who are within a year or two of their own age, and who are nice and kind and respectful, and who they respect.
' Think about these questions to determine if you're interested in this guy because of who he is or because you don't feel good enough about who you are. This guy could be more on-the-ball than some adults in your life. If you're questioning the relationship because of others' expectations--maybe your friends and family are making fun of you for liking a baby-faced boy--then you've got to take a look at why you really care about what they're saying.
She dated her high school boyfriend, one grade below her, through her freshman year of college. “It was hard because we were having such different experiences,” she said, adding, “But here at Dartmouth we have a saying, ‘Get the guy before he pledges.’ ” “A lot of my friends are dating freshmen,” she said. And it’s more about finding a nice person in your peer group (key term there: ) who you want to spend time with.So let's start with the not-so-good news about why you might be dating this guy. Or because it's intimidating--they move at a faster pace physically than you like? Do you feel that you can't attract someone who's more on your level?