Dating in non exclusive relationship
I would like to know that he isn’t sleeping with anyone else and won’t be sleeping with anyone else while we are sleeping together.Should I have the “defining the relationship” conversation with him or should I wait and allow things to evolve more?I am scared of getting hurt and us not being on the same page.But, I am equally scared of pushing for something that is happening naturally and perhaps making him feel pressured and stressed about something that is easy and great, naturally. If I talk with him, how do I bring up being exclusive so that he doesn’t feel pressured?This is not to say that it’s “wrong” to commit to someone before 4 weeks; merely that you’ll have a better sense of who you’re committing if you vet him first, instead of giving him a free pass to boyfriend-hood because you like him and want to sleep with him.To the original poster’s point, you really shouldn’t have to “bring up” whether he’s your boyfriend.
If he’s still a good guy who calls consistently, sees you consistently, and seems to want to be monogamous, then you should feel secure in giving him a shot, as opposed to doing what most of us do: hopping into bed first, “committing”, and realizing that we’ve made a terrible choice due to chemistry.
He still has his online dating profile up and checks it regularly (we met on the site).
I trust him and know that he is being honest, but now that we have slept with each other, it makes me feel vulnerable and nervous.
But, we are technically not exclusive (meaning, we talked prior to sleeping together and said that we were both able to date others, if we wanted).
However, we talked more recently and we both said that we aren’t dating anyone else, but we didn’t explicitly say that we are exclusive.Our chemistry was immediate (physical, intellectual, and emotional) and things have been very easy so far. I am totally comfortable with the speed (how often we are communicating, seeing each other, and sharing information about ourselves).