Dating guys at work
"Now with dating more than one guy, I have been able to look at what each of them would add to my life and not feel pressured about one person.
“Look, Laura, think of it this way,” my bright-eyed, bouncy friend persuaded me several years ago while I was in one of my indecisive, overly analytical moments.
I got there a bit early, but before long it was time for the 30-somethings to conduct their session. With this new perspective, I opted out of asking the popular questions most people would ask: Have you ever been married? The more I focused on these guys as individuals with their own personal hopes and dreams, the more I sincerely wanted to know their stories.
What started out as a challenge to “write an article” became a mission to relate to these single men as people. I learned that the baseball-capped guy wanted to run his own auto mechanic shop and own a horse ranch.
I needed a Plan B, and I needed a little push from one of my good friends to see me off in a new direction. I mentally told myself, Forget about this being a date. Your main objective is to discover who this other person is, like a good journalist would do. Besides, how can you get to know the real person in six minutes when you are cramming very personal questions into ever possible second?
So I headed out to the coffeehouse in my skinny jeans and brown boots, singing at the top of my lungs to some Shania Twain girl-powered song to bolster my confidence. Enjoy the process and don’t worry about the results. My relaxed outlook meant that the guy would also be more relaxed and free to discuss anything he wished without the threat of being rejected or bulldozed.
Then when the appointed hour comes, the single women are asked to disperse themselves around the room, one woman per table, and the single gentlemen are then asked to go from table to table when given the go ahead from the organizer.But his main focus seemed to be a girl in his past that he was obviously still in love with. A rugged-looking guy wanted to create a book of his poetry and then open a greeting card line— something quite different from the day-to-day job he had driving a laundry truck.This guy also told me that he was convinced there was a God because when he was young and drunk, he drove into a house, totaled his car, and walked away without a scratch. One Filipino fellow was considering joining his friend in Ecuador on a mission trip.In T minus 168 hours, Agent Bagby, investigative journalist extraordinaire, was about to enter the world of speed dating.
I synchronized my watch, smiled mysteriously to myself at my upcoming mission…
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