Dating a resident doctor
My brother’s gotten caught up in the Red Pill Philosophy.It’s a mindset that shows up a lot in the nether regions of the internet that’s basically a mix of PUA and Men Going Their Own Way, but with a lot more violent misogyny.I mention all of this because one of the things I’m always pushing against are the toxic philosophies that so often masquerade as dating advice.The Pick-Up community, for example, be of use to men wanting to do better at dating, in theory…Some their “dating” advice is basically descriptions of abusive relationships.They claim to not hate women and focus on self improvement, but believe men must establish control/dominance over the women in their lives in order to “get sex”, and that women are intellectually/morally inferior to men.One of the more vocal subsets of this particular philosophy is known as The Red Pill.
One of the popular red pill themes is that men should be dominant over the women in their lives, and sex and sexual acts are the metric of dominance therefore worth as a man.Many people recognize that this mindset is very dangerous, but all criticism from women and feminist men only makes fun of their more extreme points rather than offering an alternative to men and boys that are frustrated.I ask because I want something to offer men my age and younger when they say acting “alpha” is their only way to get the relationship they want. My parents have a feminist marriage, since my mother is the breadwinner, however my parents are not happy together. Part of this is a fundamental lack of compatibility (they didn’t want to get married but did because of unexpected pregnancy), but it is also because our father allows my mother abuse and manipulate him.As I’m fond of saying, dating success is 80% attitude and 20% skill, and a of that attitude involves both issues of masculinity and also understanding and empathizing with women.
The people who do best with women are the ones who not only understand them but, critically, don’t view them as opponents, enemies or inferiors.They feel that women have somehow gained an unfair advantage in the world, making it virtually impossible for a heterosexual, cisgendered white man to get a break.